The following is a snapshot of some dialogue/reflections I had with God regarding my being a woman. Please note some of this may seem stereotypical and I recognize we’re all different and unique, way beyond gender.
- Women, the Weak Ones… I’m the weak one God..or, the “weaker vessel” so what is that of You because I know I’m made in Your Image…
Maybe that’s Jesus…Jesus was the weakness of God….He felt pain physically, he was hungry, tired, thirsty, broken, he couldn’t be everywhere at once-confined to a body….limited…
- Women, the Bleeding Ones… Hey God, I bleed. Once a month, 12 months a year, year after year. What on earth is that of You?!
Maybe that’s Jesus too. He was born to bleed. “The Lamb slain before the foundation of the world..” (Revelation 13:8, Bible). It’s not by good thoughts or deeds that we get into heaven, but just the blood of Jesus opens the gate (see, e.g the Passover and The Last Supper).
- The Children came Through Our Body… There’s a family photograph where my husband is holding our smallest daughter in his arms. I carried her nine months in my womb, but because she came through my body, he can hold her. Similarly, we all can go to God, “the Father” through the body of Jesus (didn’t he say “no one comes to the father but through me” and “I am the door”?)
Delivering the children was a painful, bloody mess…. So was the cross. When I was in labor I felt like I was going to die…. Jesus did die. Soldiers pierced his side when he was dead and blood and water came out. This is also what comes out when a child is born.
Before Jesus went to the cross he spoke about a woman in labor:
“…[She] has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. Therefore you now have sorrow; but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from you.” (John 16:21-22, Bible)
- The Children are Nourished from Our Body… I’ve been blessed to be able to nourish my children from my body. El Shaddai is a name for God which means “The All Sufficient One,” and according to hebrew4christians.com, “Shad” means “breast” in Hebrew. Certainly when a child is hungry or distressed, there is nothing like a mother’s breast to nourish and comfort him. God often talks about food and says His Word is even like milk..
“as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby, if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is gracious. (1 Peter 2:2,3, Bible)
- Totally Equal, but sometimes deferring or submitting…
The common idea that men and women are equal but have different “roles” just doesn’t fit in my marriage. We are completely equal partners and work our strengths together to achieve the best for our family. Whoever is good at a task does it and we show this to our kids (there are no typical “man” or “woman” things). But sometimes there’s a difficult decision and I’m not sure what to do, so I gladly defer to whatever my husband thinks is best. I know he has our best interest at heart. Sometimes it happens the other way around. But the point is there is mutual submission and that’s OK (see e.g. Eph.5:21, 1 Pet 5:5-6).
Jesus pleaded for another way in the garden of Gethsemane, but he deferred–even surrendered/submitted– to the Father’s will. Totally Equal to God, but he didn’t assert his way. Freedom, deliverance, and complete identification with the “children” was the result of this act.
These are all just some reflections. The important thing to note is that we are all equal for God and everyone reflects His Image -men, women and the little ones!
“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28)
Weird Side Note: Ever notice how men in traditional Hebrew prayer cover their heads with a shawl, and women in some cultures or religions, even to this day, have their heads covered constantly? This reminds me of a verse for women (or anyone) with a running monologue in their minds…
“The heavens declare the glory of God;
And the firmament shows His handiwork.
Day unto day utters speech,
And night unto night reveals knowledge.
There is no speech nor language
Where their voice is not heard….” (Psalm 19:1-3)
Keep your dialogue going, and don’t forget to turn your face every so often to the One Who Is Always Listening….He loves looking at you, and you may find Peace or Rest for a worried soul instantly…
*My mother once said our prayer is like God talking to Himself…
artwork credit: painting- Liz Lemon Swindle, photo- Liz Katz